Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Acid House Flashback # 10

"Good Life" - Inner City - 1988

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Out Of The Darkness

Last night was extraordinary.

Here, in a city much more known for its after-hours clubs and celebrity spottings than for progressive activism, a couple of hundred people came out to stand up for fairness and equality at our Light Up the Night for Equality demonstration. We stood, united, in the heart of South Beach, and we all did our part to keep the conversation going.

And, as a bonus, I had the pleasure of meeting superstar activist / blogger Eric Levan, who encouraged Miami to RAGE ON!

Sunday, December 07, 2008

Light Up The Night For Equality

The Join the Impact protests brought hundreds of thousands of people into the streets, last month, in nearly every city across the nation, and marked the beginning of the next era of activism in our community. The next big action is a national candlelight vigil - in remembrance of the civil marriage rights that were lost, and in honor of the future of equality that is to come. Tony and I have stepped up to help organize the Miami event...so, I probably won't have much time to spend around here until after the 20th.

In the meantime, please watch this video, check out the event in your city, and help get the word out.

See you soon!

Friday, November 28, 2008

The Reason For The Season

'Tis the season for re-posting my annual updated anti-Black Friday post.....

The malls here in Miami began decking the halls 2 months ago, and had Santa's train installed just as the last back to school sales were ending. I know it's cliche at this point to feel nostalgic for the days when the holy season of giving gently revealed itself shortly after Thanksgiving. Today, a 5am scuffle in the line outside of Best Buy on Black Friday merely marks the halfway point in the season of stress and artifice.

Again, this year, I'm committing to honoring the reason for the season - the winter solstice - and celebrating this beautiful time of year by spending quality time with the people that I love, and sharing meaningful socially-conscious gifts instead of spending time fighting the crowds, so I can check people off my list with cheap plastic crap from Walmart and iPod iPhone accessories.

Of course, this year, there will most likely be less in the way of shopping hordes, thanks to the collapse of the trickle-down economy, and that only means that every dollar you spend will have more power to bring about a better world. This season, each holiday gift that you purchase, will have an impact. Amidst all of the news of frozen credit and layoffs and golden parachutes, is the opportunity to help build our communities, bring about more peace, and protect the world around us, just by putting a little thought and a little heart into where we place our dollar power.

So, for the like minded, here are a few ideas...


World Wildlife Fund


Abundant Earth

Care2: Shop and Help the Planet

Defenders of Wildlife

The Sierra Club

The Nature Conservancy

E-House Eco-Friendly Gifts

The Jane Goodall Institute Store

Zappos Eco-Friendly and Vegetarian Shoes

Equita Essentials for Ethical Living


The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force

The Human Rights Campaign Fund - Designer Tees


The United Church of Christ

Gay and Lesbian Community Center of South Florida


Persad Center

The Ali Forney Center

Immigration Equality

Outspoken Clothing

Miami Gay and Lesbian Film Festival

Margaret Cho Shop

Kathy Griffin

Ellen Shop

Ani DiFranco

Ari Gold

Outwrite Books

TLA Video

Logo Television Shop


The November Coalition

The Center For Cognitive Liberty and Ethics

The Drug Policy Alliance

Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies

NORML Holiday Gifts




Betty Bowers Gifts

UTNE Magazine

Syracuse Cultural Workers Gifts

American Humanist Association

Unity on the Bay

Darwin Fish Stocking Stuffers

National Public Radio Shop

The Quakers

Amnesty International Gift Shop

People for the American Way

Mother Jones



Pittsburgh AIDS Task Force

AIDS Memorial Quilt

Artists for a New South Africa

Pets are Loving Support Atlanta

Susan G. Komen Promise Shop


The Humane Society

PETA Shopping Mall

Adopt a Manatee

National Audubon Society

The Orangutan Foundation


Kenneth Treacy

Eric Chismar Photography

The Matress Factory

The Warhol Museum

Clyde Butcher Photography

Carnegie Museum of Art

Salvador Dali Museum


Betty Bowers


Tools for Change Holiday Cards

Recycled Cards That Grow

Have a Peaceful, Stress-Free and Meaningful Holiday!

Friday, November 21, 2008

We Will Keep Falling In Love

I know I've been a bit on the "militant homosexual" tip lately, but majorities of Americans - my neighbors and co-workers and family members - in state after state, continue to go out of their way to deny legal recognition of our marriages and to vote against treating me as an equal member of this society, all while taking my tax money to pay for services for their families....it's just maddening. Sister Unity Divine of The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence speaks so well for so many of us that are just too damned angry to speak.

We will keep falling in love, and we will wear two-foot long eyelashes if we want to, and there's not a fucking thing that Focus on the Family or any other the other "Christian" hate groups can do about it.

* Video sampled from Emerald City Guy at My 2 Cents.

Saturday, November 15, 2008

The Power Of Love

Miami Beach was all sunshine and love today, as we joined in the nationwide call to Join the Impact. It felt so good to get out, and let the country know that we will not go down quietly. I am so excited by the number of young people and straight people that showed up and the passion that is in their hearts. We really are going to win this thing in the long run. Oh, and one person showed up to protest the protest, and as you can see in the photo, he is totally insane.

Now, we have to keep the momentum going. If you live in the Miami area, SAVE DADE will host a "town hall" to discuss where we, as a community, go from here. For details, click here.

If you have photos, or a post about the event in your city, please leave a comment with a link. I'd love to see and hear about it!

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

No More

This is a new day for everyone. The dark, dark days of the Bush Regime are coming to an end. For the first time in a long time, truth and hope won out over ignorance and fear. I can't stop welling up with tears of joy, knowing that no matter how difficult this time is, there is now a future to look forward to.

And, then I heard the newly elected President of the United States include me, as a gay person, in his acceptance speech.

"If there is anyone out there who still doubts that America is a place where all things are possible, who still wonders if the dream of our founders is alive in our time, who still questions the power of our democracy, tonight is your answer.

"It's the answer told by lines that stretched around schools and churches in numbers this nation has never seen, by people who waited three hours and four hours, many for the first time in their lives, because they believed that this time must be different, that their voices could be that difference .

"It's the answer spoken by young and old, rich and poor, Democrat and Republican, black, white, Hispanic, Asian, Native American, gay, straight, disabled and not disabled.

We are, and always will be, the United States of America."

If you're not gay, you probably don't have any idea how deeply moving it was, just being acknowledged as a person and citizen of this country by our soon-to-be leader. I have never been so proud of my country, and I still can't express the hope that I have in my heart for where our country can go now.

Then, I watched as the results came in on the four big state votes on gay rights referendums. As expected, in Arizona, an amendment banning legal recognition of gay marriages passed. And in Arkansas, gay people are now banned from adopting children, or even caring for foster children. In California, more than half of the people voted to take away gay peoples' civil right to marry their life partners.

And in my state, Florida, Amendment 2 was passed by 62% of the people that I live next to, work with, and support with business. 62% of the people in Florida believe that I should continue to pay taxes to fund schools for their kids and programs for their families. But, they don't think that my family is worthy of the dignity of legal recognition of any kind.

To all of those people who voted to make me a second-class citizen - fuck you! Fuck you and your twisted "family values." Fuck you and your "sanctity of marriage." Fuck you and your "protecting tradition." Fuck you. Fuck you. Fuck you.

You should know that, thanks to your hateful campaigns, there is an electricity in the air in America's gay communities. We are hopeful, and we are fucking angry. It's hard to figure out where those two emotions together will take us, but something is happening. All across the country, we are coming together with our straight friends and allies to take our equal rights. You pushed us too far this time, and we are standing up and saying no more.

No more beating us and bashing us and raping us. No more making fun of us and causing our young people to commit suicide. No more excluding us and shaming us and ostracizing us. No more killing us and hanging us on fences in Wyoming fields. No more scapegoating us and no more blaming us. No more torturing us or trying to convert us. No more slurring us. No more arresting us. No more ex-communicating us. No more disowning us. No more. No more. No more.

If you want to join us in saying "no fucking more," we will be protesting nationwide this Saturday. Just click here, sign up and show up. And be a part of the beginning of a movement.

Wednesday, November 05, 2008

It Is A New Day!

I now live in a blue state! A blue state where 62% my neighbors believe that I should be treated as a second-class citizen, but a blue state nonetheless.

Friday, October 31, 2008

Acid House Flashback # 9

"Elevation (Move Your Body)" - Xpansions - 1990

Monday, October 20, 2008

The Okapi Miami-Dade Voting Guide

Like just about everyone, I am completely exhausted, but extremely hopeful, regarding the upcoming election. I can't imagine how many hours I've spent surfing political blogs, or how many evenings I've spent with Rachel Maddow and Chris Matthews and the whole CNN Roundtable. And, today, early voting in Florida begins. So, for my peeps in Miami, who are less politically addicted than I, and who trust my leftist liberal elite opinion....here's how I'm voting. Now, get your ass to the polls!

Barack Obama / Joe Biden

Annette Taddeo

Debbie Wasserman Schultz

Raul L. Martinez

Joe Garcia

Dan Gelber

No One

Richard L. Steinberg

Luis Garcia

Nancy L. Stander

Frank Morra

No One

Javier Betancourt

Michael Hanley Calderin

Ron Saunders

Harvey Rubin

Summary: Proposing an amendment to the State Constitution to delete provisions authorizing the Legislature to regulate or prohibit ownership, inheritance, disposition, and possession of real property by aliens ineligible for citizenship.
Vote YES!

Summary: This amendment protects marriage as the legal union of only one man and one woman as husband and wife and provides that no other legal union that is treated as marriage or the substantial equivalent thereof shall be valid or recognized.
Vote NO!

Summary: Authorizes the Legislature, by general law, to prohibit consideration of changes or improvements to residential real property which increase resistance to wind damage and installation of renewable energy source devices as factors in assessing the property’s value for ad valorem taxation purposes. Effective upon adoption, repeals the existing renewable energy source device exemption no longer in effect.
Vote YES!

Requires the Legislature to provide a property tax exemption for real property encumbered by perpetual conservation easements or other perpetual conservation protections, defined by general law. Requires Legislature to provide for classification and assessment of land used for conservation purposes, and not perpetually encumbered, solely on the basis of character or use. Subjects assessment benefit to conditions, limitations, and reasonable definitions established by general law. Applies to property taxes beginning in 2010.
Vote YES!

Provides for assessment based upon use of land used predominantly for commercial fishing purposes; land used for vessel launches into waters that are navigable and accessible to the public; marinas and dry stacks that are open to the public; and water-dependent marine manufacturing facilities, commercial fishing facilities, and marine vessel construction and repair facilities and their support activities, subject to conditions, limitations, and reasonable definitions.
Vote YES!

Proposing an amendment to the State Constitution to require that the Legislature authorize counties to levy a local option sales tax to supplement community college funding; requiring voter approval to levy the tax; providing that approved taxes will sunset after 5 years and may be reauthorized by the voters.
Vote YES!

Home Rule Charter Amendment Regarding the Offices of Manager and Mayor: Shall the Charter be amended to transfer the powers, duties, and responsibilities of the County Manager to the County Mayor and provide that the County Manager shall assist the Mayor in the administration of county government only to the extent directed by the Mayor?
Vote YES!

Home Rule Charter Amendment Relating to Salaries and Service of County Commissioners: Shall the Charter be amended to provide that County Commissioners shall:• Devote full-time service to the office of Commissioner and hold no other employment; and• No longer receive the $6,000 annual salary established in 1957, but receive instead the salary provided by state statutory formula, adjusted annually by the county’s population (currently approximately $91,995), used by other Florida counties, including Broward County?
Vote YES!

Charter Amendment Providing Alternative Process to Qualify for Office of County Commissioner or Mayor: Shall the Charter be amended to permit candidates for the office of County Commissioner or Mayor to qualify for office by either submitting a petition signed by specified number of registered voters or paying a qualifying fee?
Vote YES!

Home Rule Charter Amendment on Ordinance Initiative Petitions Requiring Clerk Form Approval and Public Hearings: Shall the Charter be amended to provide that the Clerk, not the Board, shall approve initiative petitions proposing passage or repeal of an ordinance as to form and require the County Commission to hold a public hearing on any such petition at the next County Commission meeting subsequent to the Clerk’s approval of the petition?
Vote YES!

Charter Amendment Relating to Approval as to Form of Initiative Petitions: Shall the Charter be amended to provide that the Clerk of the Circuit Court, rather than the Board of County Commissioners, approve citizen initiative petitions as to form?
Vote YES!

County Charter Amendment Creating Uniform Countywide Fire and Rescue Service and Preserving Existing City Service: Shall the Charter be amended to require that the Board of County Commissioners provide a uniform, countywide system of fire protection and rescue services for all incorporated and unincorporated areas of the County with the exception of the cities of Miami, Miami Beach, Hialeah, Coral Gables, and Key Biscayne which may provide for fire and rescue protection services in those cities?
Vote NO!

If you want to vote early...which I think is a great idea if you're not going to be happy about waiting in line for hours on November 4th, click here for a list of early voting sites, and click here for a list of what you'll need to bring with you.

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

One Crazy Golden Girl

All I ever needed to know in life, I learned from "The Golden Girls."

Thank you to Rodrigo and Jason for passing this gem on, and making me spray chocolate milk all over my monitor.

Monday, October 13, 2008

Thursday, October 09, 2008

Never Can Say Goodbye

So, the reunion was a blast, as predicted. A lot of people couldn't make it, thanks to tight budgets and the coming Depression II, but it was really great hanging out with a least part of "the gang" again. We visited most of our old haunts around the city, and discovered a lot of new places. Some highlights....

* We had a great breakfast at Pamela's Diner in the Strip District. I miss fun kitschy diners like Pamela's.

* We attended the Friday night meeting of the current gay youth group in Pittsburgh. A few of us shared our stories of coming out way back in the olden days of the 1980s. And, we heard from the new generation about coming out today. It was such a great experience...that is, until I realized that the new generation was born in the 1990s.

* The Mattress Factory. Possibly the coolest thing about Pittsburgh.

* Our reunion happened to coincide with Pittsburgh's 250th Anniversary Celebration. The fireworks display was like the opening to the Beijing Olympics. 17 launch sites around Downtown. Crazy cool. And, I'm not even a fireworks person.

So, until the next one in 2028...

Wednesday, October 01, 2008

A Big Gay Reunion!

Tomorrow, I'm going home. It's really home, in more ways than one. I'm going to Pittsburgh for my 20 year reunion. It's not my high school reunion, which I wouldn't even consider attending. It's a weekend reunion of my gay youth group. I'm going home to walk down memory lane with the people who saved my life, and helped me to define myself. I can't wait!

To celebrate our 20 year reunion, I've reposted a little story that appeared here at the Lair a couple of years ago....

In 1988, a small group of disenfranchised, but glamourously resourceful teenagers, myself included, formed a Gay youth group – Pittsburgh’s Growing Alternative Youth. Our mission was to welcome, educate and empower the next generation of Steel City queers, as well as to greatly expand our social circle and dating possibilities. We took up a campaign of guerilla marketing – infiltrating high school libraries and stuffing any medical or psychology book with an index reference to “homosexuality” with flyers for the group. We networked at Gay cruising spots and outside Gay bars. We posted flyers in the womyn’s bookstore and the universities’ student unions. We grew from meetings of 4 or 5 to a weekly attendance of over 60 in just a few months.

A local Gay minister and activist, Lou, helped us get organized and encouraged us to take on the world. We had weekly speakers, presenting a range of topics. Herman, a charming, elderly African-American gentleman came to tell us what Gay life was like for him in the 1940s. Kathy, a licensed counselor, came to speak to us about ways to improve self-esteem, and Don, in a 2-part workshop, “Eroticizing Safer Sex,” taught us how to protect ourselves in a newly dangerous world. We watched “Torch Song Trilogy” and “Desert Hearts” and planned monthly under 21 parties at local Gay bars.

In 1990, Chris, my roommate, and a member of the youth group with a long history of depression and self-esteem issues, ended his own life. I think many of us felt that we had failed him – failed to be a good enough family when his family wanted nothing to do with him. We failed to take him seriously when he joked about suicide and when he made theatrical attempts that we thought were “just for attention.” Jason and I were the leaders of the group, and after Chris’ death we lost interest, and the group fell apart (some time after it was reincarnated into a less educational, more social entity).

But, I look back now, and I don’t see failure anymore. I often meet Gay people in their 30s and 40s who are struggling with issues that we were able to address in our teens. Through Growing Alternative Youth and with Lou’s help, we learned more about Gay history and culture before we could legally enter a Gay bar, than many middle-aged Queers know. We had opportunities to grow at a time when, unfortunately, many Gay people are stifled by internalized homophobia.

I realize now that we didn’t fail Chris. We more likely succeeded in keeping a lot of other Gay kids from following in his footsteps.

Saturday, September 27, 2008

The Bush Doctrine

The Bush Doctrine refers to the main principles and foundation of the Bush Administration's foreign policy, particularly regarding the "preemptive war" on Iraq. In a recent interview with Charlie Gibson, Sarah Palin, possibly the next Vice-President of the United States, clearly was unfamiliar with the Bush Doctrine - the current guiding foreign policy of her party.

And, now the McCain campaign folks have provided Palin, who by all accounts is a quick learner, a copy of the video that inspired George W. Bush in the creation of the current policy.

Thursday, September 25, 2008

Back to the Grind

Tony and I had a fantastic time in Italy. We spent three beautiful days in Rome, then took a train to Bergamo to visit Tony friend Battista and his boyfriend Mario, who were kind enough to put us up for a couple of days, make us laugh a lot, and take us on a day trip to Lake Como, near the Swiss border. Then, we headed to Venice for two days - one of which was Tony's birthday. Finally, back to Rome - with a day stop in Florence. For pics, just click here.

It really was so nice to be completely disconnected from 24 hour news cycles, and it was nice to come home and discover that not much had really happened while we were gone. Well, except that the entire American economy collapsed, the fundamentals of the McCain / Palin campaign short-circuited, Hurricane Ike destoyed much of Texas and the Midwest, Clay Aiken admitted that he's a lesbian and a plague of locusts enveloped the entire East Coast.

Looks like I'm back to the grind.

Friday, September 12, 2008

Roman Holiday

Tony and I are off to Italy for 9 adventurous and romantical-type days of La Dolce Vita. Arrivederci!

The Elusive Okapi

Now, here's some wonderful news - that's of particular interest to this blog....

An African animal so secretive it was once believed to be a mythical unicorn has been caught on camera in the wild. Camera traps set by the Zoological Society of London (ZSL) in the Democratic Republic of Congo have captured rare pictures of wild okapi.

* snip *

The sightings in Virunga National Park prove the species is surviving in the jungle despite years of civil conflict.

Dr Noelle Kumpel, ZSL's bush meat and forests conservation programme manager, said: "To have captured photographs of such a charismatic creature is amazing. "Okapi are very shy and rare animals - which is why conventional surveys only tend to record droppings and other signs of their presence."

Tuesday, September 09, 2008

Acid House Flashback # 8

"Garden of Eden" - Garden of Eden - 1988

Thursday, September 04, 2008

The Real Fourth Estate

This, my friends, is important stuff. Apparently, Comedy Central has become the pillar of thorough and responsible journalism. Sampled from Boltgirl's sampling of Pam's House Blend.....

Wednesday, September 03, 2008

Way Up North In The Deep South

Tony, Olga and I roadtripped to Atlanta over the long weekend to visit the Stimpasaurus. The Deep South sure is far north of Miami....about 10 hours north. But it was well worth the grueling drive....

Thursday, August 28, 2008

It's On!

Oh Yes We Fucking Can!

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Post-Rationality and PUMA-ism

Once again, Rachel Maddow just fucking nails it. It's so clear that the few PUMA-ists* that are still clinging, so emotionally, to their post-rational choice, have no idea where any of the candidates stand on any of the issues. Hillary Clinton was a great candidate. Barack Obama IS a great candidate. And John McCain will finish off the job of destroying our economy, security and standing in the world.

* PUMA - noun, Originally an acronym for Party Unity My Ass, now changed to the slightly less toxic People United Means Action. Quickly becoming a derogatory adjective synonymous with post-rational.

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

The Too Short List

The internets are all abuzz with word from the New York Times that Barack Obama will likely announce his choice for running mate tomorrow. Word is that the short list is shorter than ever, with Evan Bayh, Tim Kaine and Joe Biden as the real contenders. Man, am I hoping that the politicos are wrong.

Evan Bayh is a junior U.S. Senator from Indiana. He was also a co-sponsor of the joint resolution to authorize Bush's War on Iraq - which will certainly go down in history as the biggest blunder in U.S. history. Before Congress voted to give Bush pre-emptive power, I knew that invading Iraq was wrong. Most of my friends knew it was wrong. Even my blue-collar Pennsylvania family knew it was wrong. But Evan Bayh exercised his best judgment and voted for the war...and now regrets his choice. Sometimes, mistakes can't be fixed.

And, Joe Biden. Senator Joe Biden has lots of political history and tons of foreign policy experience. And, like Senator Bayh, he supported the Bush Administration's War for Halliburton. Given Senator Biden's experience, his support is particularly upsetting, and particularly damaging to one of Barack Obama's greatest assets - his good judgment from the beginning. While Bayh and Biden were voting to send us in to an unwinnable war, Barack Obama was speaking at an anti-war rally.

Senator Biden also, along with the likes of Strom Thurmond, Joe Lieberman and Orrin Hatch, sponsored the ridiculously un-American RAVE Act (Reducing Americans' Vulnerability to Ecstasy Act), which allows concert and rave promoters to be arrested and prosecuted if anyone is found with controlled substances at the event, if so-called drug accessories such as glow-sticks or bottled water are also present.

Add to these problems, Biden's inability to control his mouth, and the fact that his middle name is Robinette, and that during the primary he said of Obama, "I mean, you got the first mainstream African-American who is articulate and bright and clean and a nice-looking guy, I mean, that's a storybook, man," and I think it's clear that the short list is a little too short.

Virginia Governor Tim Kaine seems like a nice fellow, and he's by far the best choice of the three, but he's not going to help Obama much with the lack of experience argument. He'll solidify Virginia as a blue state in November, but he's not a nationally exciting candidate.

I'd be happy with Tim Kaine...but I'd be happier with Kansas Governor Kathleen Sebelius, who according to most politicos is on the short list...just not the short short list. She has a strong resume, a good record of getting things done right, and is one of the most popular state governors in the nation. In 2005, she was named one of the five best governors by Time Magazine. I also think she'd do a lot to excite disgruntled Hillary supporters who would love to see a woman Vice-President be sworn in in January.

Saturday, August 16, 2008

Acid House Flashback # 7

"Work It to the Bone" - LNR - 1987

Thursday, July 31, 2008

The Republican Economy

Today's economic news....

"Economy Gains Less Than Expected" - The United States GDP grew at an annual rate of 1.9% last quarter, though economists had forecast a growth of 2.3%, due to the $140 billion in economic stimulus checks that were handed out by the Bush Administration. Now the checks are gone.

"Dollar Falls on Weak Economic Report" - Due to the worse than expected GDP growth, and an unexpectedly big rise in unemployment claims, the United States dollar dropped in value against the world's major currencies.

"Jobless Claims Surge to 5 Year High" - The number of claims for unexmployment rose to their highest levels since April, 2003.

"Stocks Mostly Decline" - After the troubling news on the economy and jobs, Wall Street took another hit.

"Foreclosure Rate Hits Historic High" - More than a quarter of a million American homes are now in foreclosure status.

"Personal Bankruptcies Rise" - The number of Americans filing personal bankruptcies rose by almost 50,000 over the same time last year.

"The Cost of Iraq War and Nation Building" - The financial cost of the War on Iraq is nearing $562,000,000,000. That's 562 BILLION DOLLARS of American education and infrastructure money.

And my favorite headline of the day...

"Exxon Posts Record $11.68 Billion Profit" - Exxon-Mobil once again broke its own record by making the largest quarterly profit in history!

Friday, July 25, 2008

Odds and Ends

I'm not a microblogging Twitter-type guy, but it's been a crazy busy week for me. So here goes.

Estelle Getty and Randy Pausch both passed this week and I'm sadder than I probably should be. The world really lost two exceptional people, but I'm grateful that my era coincided with theirs.

I'm not thrilled about some of the side effects of the high cost of gasoline...rising food costs, "fuel surcharges" on everything, and the fear of financial ruin that has just about everyone spooked. But, honestly, I'm ok with $4 gas, or even $5 gas. We finally hit the point, where Americans are making real lifestyle changes. Automakers can't make hybrids fast enough, and they can't give away SUVs. Bicycle and scooter sales are through the roof, while Hummer drivers have, almost overnight, become pariahs on the road. Everyone seems to be planning their trips more to make the most of a tank, and I really am noticing significantly fewer cars on the road. And, in some ways the gas crisis has the potential of possibly slowing things down and bringing us a little closer to each other. As a totally anecdotal example, Tony, me, and our friends have been taking long group walks on the beach and the boardwalk and "just hanging out" as cheap entertainment...and it's been great. If the gas crisis causes us to give up some designer names and latest gadgets and take up spending real time with real friends...then I'm all for it.

I've got a crazy reality tv crush on Matt Cady of Fanny Pak on "America's Best Dance Crew." Just thought I'd share.

The gay blog-o-sphere had a near meltdown this week that rivals the Bear Sterns / Indymac implosions. It seems that Cooper of Cooper's Corridor wasn't Cooper at all. "He" was probably my favorite writer on these internets, and I have to admit to being a bit disappointed. And, for even more disappointing gay blogger news, Scott-O-Rama is closing his doors, and it looks like Frankie is scaling back.

This summer should've been my 20 year high school reunion, which I wouldn't even think of attending. But, in October, Tony and I will be heading to Pittsburgh, for a 20 year reunion of our gay youth group, Growing Alternative Youth. I cannot wait to see the "old" gang again.

Finally, this pic of Betty on the ferry to Fire Island, snapped by the adoring paparrazzi. After all these years, she's still feeh-irce and I fucking love huh.